Your Top Three Personal Musts

There are three things I believe we should constantly move toward. Being more fit, more skilled, and more caring. These three processes will expand you as a person and expand how you live your life.

  1. To be more fit you need to be moving. More specifically, moving at something with your body.

  2. To be more skilled you need to be seeking something. You need to be asking yourself how can I be better at that or how and where can I learn more about that.

  3. To be more caring you need to be thinking more about others and not as much about just yourself.

These are not a movement; these three processes should be part of your personal philosophy and should be incorporated into your everyday life. Imagine for a minute the sense of accomplishment you would feel each day knowing you expanded these three areas of your life. I’m sure you would like to get started on these right away, but let’s say you get started tomorrow, you can have tonight to think it over. Give serious thought to where each of these needs attention. Let me give you an example.

I’ll start with being more fit because if you let your health go the other two won’t matter. You don’t want to be looking down on us wishing things were different. Okay, you've heard that walking 10,000 steps each day will increase your overall health and fitness. I have been doing this for about 15 years. I know you don’t know me and may not want too many details, I’ll summarize. I started walking 10,000 steps a day, every day and lost 50 lbs. It’s amazing! I feel better and get more quality sleep. The idea for me was that I wanted to get up off the floor easier. Losing 50 lbs. defiantly accomplished that. I have since expanded to doing more than 20,000 steps a day. Research shows that walking 10,000 steps a day, which is approximately 5 miles will improve your health. You’re already doing some steps and may be doing more than you think. Try getting up earlier and taking a twenty-minute walk before you head out to work or your daily routine. A twenty-minute walk will add more than 2,000 steps to your daily count. A walk after dinner is another good place to add 2,000 steps to your daily count. There are lots of ways that will help you be more fit but walking is a great place to start.

Next let’s talk about being more skilled. To be skilled at something you first need to learn it. As you can imagine, the list of skills you can learn is really long. It’s not only what skills you have but also how you do them. Do you do them well or do you accept doing them in a mediocre fashion? Each of us is likely skilled at something. So how do you become more skilled at that something? “Practice is the mother of skill.” Practice will improve your skill. I started taking guitar lessons about a year ago. No one in my family had ever played an instrument of any kind. It was time to start a new cycle. I picked one of the most difficult types of guitar playing that a person could start with, Spanish guitar picking. I love the music, so I thought that I should turn my love for the music to my guitar playing. I’m not yet a Spanish guitar player. That is going to take a while. I can, however; play lots of cords and a few pieces of music that sound ok. At least that’s what I’m told. I practice every day, every single day. Being more skilled also means learning more, always seeking out the things that drive you and make you want to keep learning. Never close your eyes unless you’re sleeping. Always be looking for your next skill or how to improve on the ones you have.

When was the last time you thought to be more caring? There are lots of ways to show you care. You could help a friend move, volunteer at a local nonprofit, mentor a young person, invite a colleague to have lunch or coffee, or send a "just thinking about you" card to a loved one. You get the idea. You could do something to improve yourself and it be considered caring for others. I’ll be brief and tell you about a personal experience. Over twenty-five years ago I was one of those guys that thought he knew everything. The only time I thought to be more caring was when I needed something from someone. Then one day I had a misunderstanding with the person I cared for the most in my life. When this happens, it’s time to wake up and evaluate what you think caring is all about. Don’t worry I did nothing immoral or unlawful. For a while I was not a very nice or much of a caring person. According to my most important person, others, and now including myself it was time to make a change. I’ll skip some of the details and move us to the thing that made me a more caring person. I replaced the not so nice and not so caring thoughts with positive ones. The best way I found to do that was to read. I found that if you read enough, what you read will rub off on you and have a positive impact. The more I read the better I felt, the happier I became and the easier it was to get out of my overly introverted ways. Over a period of years I read more than 100 books. So a lot of good rubbed off on me. I have since then married the person I cared and care most about. We recently renewed our vows on our twentieth anniversary. If you don’t believe people can change, I’m living proof you can.


What would your life be like if you were more fit, more skilled, and more caring?

Until next time, keep moving, seeking, and thinking of others.

I hope you enjoyed what you read as much as I enjoy sharing with you.